Gratitude

Many of us experience negative thoughts and emotions during the holidays. These are all based upon fear. Fear that we are not good enough, that we are unlovable, that we will not get what we want or lose something that we have. Fear pervades our thoughts, our days, our sleep, if we let it. Fear creates doubt, judgment, envy, guilt, anger, and dozens of other negative emotions. The quickest way to overcome fear is gratitude. It is my reality and experience that fear cannot exist in the presence of gratitude. Gratitude for what we have, instead of fear of what we don't have. Gratitude for who we are, instead of fear of what we are not. Try being grateful and being afraid at the same time. It is impossible. So we have a choice, to be filled with fear or gratitude. In this way we take back our power and become leaders. If we can be grateful, instead of afraid, we teach others how to be. Love Love Love.

What God Really Wants

Many of us believe that God wants this or that. We are taught to give money, attend services, pray, or other actions. This is not what God wants from us. The only thing God wants from us is our pain and suffering. God does not need or want our love. God is love. The only thing that we have that God wants is our pain and suffering. When we give to God our pain and suffering, this creates a space that God can fill with love. When we are filled with pain and suffering, there is no room for love. So when or if you are contemplating God or any higher power, give to that being all of your pain, your suffering, your guilt, your doubt and all of your negative thoughts. Then there is room in your heart for love. Love Love Love. Happy holidays.

Naming Your Fear

Many times we will say things like, "if I do that, he/she will get angry." When we make statements, we do not realize that God/Universe/Source hears these statements and thinks that we are asking for that. Due to the fact that God/Universe/Source loves us so much that we always get what we want, what we say becomes reality. What we probably really mean is that "if I do that, I AM AFRAID that he/she will get angry." This is a much more accurate statement of our reality in the moment and we can heal the fear. When we name the fear, we can accept it and let it go, rather than forecast the future which may very well come true. If people would only understand that what comes out of their mouths is just as important as what goes in their mouth, their reality would be much more positive. Happy Holidays!! Love Love Love

why we get depressed for the holidays

Mental health care providers rejoice at the holiday season because depression and negative feelings seem to overwhelm us during this time. The reasons are well known, money issues, memories of unpleasantness in childhood at this time (we didn't fall far from the tree, did we?), lack of sunlight, feelings of isolation and being unloved. The solution to all of this nonsense is to realize what is really happening. First of all, the end of the year is the time of death and rebirth of the world. Have you ever died and were reborn in the same lifetime? I have, and I can assure you IT HURTS! So every year we go through the symbolic death and rebirth, and if we don't know what is happening, it can get pretty scary! This is the time of year to let go of all that happened in our lives that does not serve us. It is a time to let go of guilt and shame, blame and melodrama. To renew our commitments to ourselves, to others and to our gods. The universe did not set up this pattern for us to get depressed and angry at ourselves for not being enough. This pattern was set up so that we could sever the ties to negativity and self judgment at least once a year. Think of it, the whole world goes dormant just to remind us to let go! Ironically, it is a time of year for us to remember that we are not alone on this planet. There have been times that darkness and the cold forced us to huddle together, to be part of, to share what food we have and body heat. So this is a great time to be reminded of that, and to share our time, resources and talents for the sake of others. Finally, the negative feelings that some of us experience during this time are simply the negative feelings we have stuffed into our being rather than dealing with them coming out to be healed. When we feel depressed, angry, ashamed, less than, etc. rejoice, because all of these healings are coming out to be released and we can be reborn. So when you feel depressed, scream "hallelujah!".

And have a wonder-filled holiday season.